Marriage (part III)
Say it; Don’ t Assume Anything

“Oh, you are beautiful, my darling! Oh, you are beautiful!”
(Song of Solomon 4:1)

“You don’t bring me flowers; you don’t sing me love songs----” A popular song a while back described a dying and decaying love relationship between a husband and wife. What the man once did, he no longer thought of doing. He probably assumed the wife knew he loved her. Well, the fact is, we must say it and don’t assume anything when it comes to our relationship with our spouse.

Solomon writes very eloquently here to his Shulamite bride, describing her in very vivid detail. In his eyes, she is perfect, God’s gift to man. Isn’t that what our spouse is; God’s gift to us? Why then do we concentrate so much on faults then strengths? Why are we so quick to share how they can fix something instead of how they make so many things better? Why do we stop encouraging, edifying, and flattering our spouse? We must treat every day we share as an opportunity to show it and say it! Don’t assume anything!

“You are altogether beautiful, my darling! There is no blemish in you!”
(Song of Solomon 4:7)

As we read on, we see how delighted Solomon’s bride was in responding to his accolades! We all need to hear from our spouse how much they care for us, how much we mean to them, and how attracted they are to us. We also need to communicate it back to them; in words, in deeds, and in our everyday thoughts. We can’t be the hand-in-glove team God wants us to be if we don’t let one another know how altogether beautiful we are to one another! The world may think otherwise, but who cares!